Opportunities in Disguise: How Setbacks Move us Forward

As an “armchair” philosopher, I believe that every

challenge is a new opportunity in disguise. As difficult, trying, uncomfortable or painful challenges may be, they force us to grow and learn in ways that we would not otherwise. They can also help us to develop new skills and abilities that we can use to achieve our goals.

Here are some examples of how challenges can be disguised opportunities. Recognize the pattern that emerges from every challenge, then apply the pattern to the very personal and unique challenge you are experiencing:

• A job loss can be an opportunity to start your own business. When you lose your job, you may be forced to think outside the box and come up with a new way to make a living. This can be a great opportunity to start your own business and pursue your passion.

• A health scare can be an opportunity to make lifestyle changes. When you have a health scare, it can be a wake-up call that you need to make some changes in your life. This can be an opportunity to eat healthier, exercise more, and reduce stress.

• A relationship break-up can be an opportunity to learn about yourself. When a relationship ends, it can be a painful experience. However, it can also be an opportunity to learn about yourself and what you want in a relationship. This can help you to find a more fulfilling relationship in the future. 

• Failing at something: This can be discouraging, but it can also be an opportunity to learn from your mistakes and try again.

• Feeling stuck in a rut: This can be frustrating, but it can also be an opportunity to make some changes in your life and find something that you're passionate about.

• Being in debt: This can be a stressful situation, but it can also be an opportunity to learn about financial management and get out of debt.

• Feeling lonely: This can be isolating, but it can also be an opportunity to reach out to others and build stronger relationships.

• Feeling burned out: This can be exhausting, but it can also be an opportunity to take some time for yourself and recharge.

• Feeling anxious or depressed: This can be debilitating, but it can also be an opportunity to seek professional help and get the support you need.

• Facing a natural disaster: This can be a traumatic experience, but it can also be an opportunity to come together with your community and rebuild.

Here is a checklist you can use to take action on the phrase, "Every challenge is a new opportunity in disguise":

1. Acknowledge the challenge. The first step is to acknowledge that you are facing a challenge - “Lean In…not Away.” This can be difficult, as we often find it easier to avoid, excuse, or deny the challenges. However, it is important to face our challenges head-on in order to overcome them.

2. Identify the opportunity. Once you have acknowledged the challenge, take some time to identify and reflect on the potential opportunity, or more likely, opportunities the challenge presents. Focus on the questions of a) what can you learn from this challenge? b) what skills can you develop? c) how can you grow as a person? This isn’t a ‘head in the sand approach’ of looking for the bright side of a difficult situation. It’s respecting the situation and applying some sideways thinking to examine other possibilities, not just problems. 

3. Take action. Once you have identified the opportunity, take some action to seize it. This may start by listing out small incremental steps involved in making changes to your lifestyle, learning new skills, or taking on new challenges. Remember the phrase, “Inch by inch, it’s a cinch; mile by mile games awhile.” So the first step is to take a first step, followed by a second, third and so on. 

4. Stay positive and don't give up. Challenges can, and often will be difficult, but it is important to never give up. Another appropriate aphorism worthy of remembering is, “There’s no elevator to success, everyone has to take the stairs.” Even when you stumble you’re still moving forward from where you were, towards where you want to be. Never lose sight of your goals.

5. Be resourceful. Don't be afraid to ask for help when you need it. “Being Ignorant is a challenge. Staying ignorant is a choice.” There are many people who are willing to help you overcome your challenges.

When you face your challenge(s), don't see them as setbacks, see them as opportunities to grow and learn. You may surprise yourself at what you can achieve!

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Eugene Matthews, PhD